The Value of Discomfort

Often situations are not so direly painful that immediate change is necessary.   We feel discomfort.  Discomfort is very important information; it tells us we are out of our comfort zone.  This is good because it is only in pushing out of our comfort zones that we learn, heal, and grow.  Ideally the discomfort creates an awareness that challenges us to make choices and take responsibility for our lives.  We can choose the discomfort of not changing or the discomfort of changing and trying to create a life that makes sense.  The former is safe in the sense that it is familiar; the later challenges us to be honest with ourselves and those around us in new ways.  Since we are going to be uncomfortable either way it seems to make more sense to choose the discomfort that leads to healing and growth.  Either way it is important to remember that as adults we are free to choose whether we make changes in our lives or choose not to.  

New Chapters

The meaning of a new year depends on the person you ask.  To me one 0f the most powerful meanings is a new and intentional beginning.  We are largely creatures of habit that are only willing to change when we experience so much pain that we can no longer continue in the old habit.  A new year provides an opportunity to reflect on the successes and frustrations of the past year.  It is an opportunity to set our own trajectory rather waiting for pain to right the ship.  I encourage most of my clients to journal as a tool to develop awareness of their inner processes.  At the beginning of a new year I encourage everyone to think and write about their goals in terms of personal growth, spiritual and physical well being, relationships, and career.  If we have visions we can work towards them. Otherwise, in the words of Yogi Bera, “If you don’t know where you’re going, you might not get there.”  You have the heart, courage, and intelligence for the journey.  Choose your path.