It's Just Your Brain

We seem to take our brain and what it produces very personally; more so than any other organ.  I am of the belief that while we do not control our brain, we do control our intentions and our actions.  We are perceivers of our thoughts and feeling not the generators.  We do have influence over ourselves.  In being conscious of our intentions and choosing actions that are coherent with these intentions we able to create lives that have meaning and direction.  Our brains can frighten and offend us, but it is not who we are.  The more we understand the material our brain presents us with, the freer we are to build lives that make sense and are not driven by fear.  In being conscious we can learn to differentiate and not judge our brain, nor mistake what it shows us for who we are or what we are becoming.

Moving to Solutions

Being right doesn't matter.  We are all right and all doing the best we can with what we have.  In blaming and being righteous we give away our power to change and heal by staying stuck in the problem.  As a client of mine once said, "There is no problem that can't be solved if you break it down into small enough parts." Further, by focusing our energy and intentions on finding solutions we create movement which creates a space where solutions can evolve.  While we cannot control other people or the results of our actions, our power lies in our ability to consciously choose our intentions and our actions.  We need not stay stuck in the problem, nor have the same frustrating conversations repeatedly.  We can use the power we do have to seek and find solutions.