Bring the Woo Back

It’s the season of giving.   Unfortunately for many that equals financial stress or simply irritation with our consumerist culture.  I would like to pose the question this season, “How can you bring woo back into your relationship?”  This involves creatively showing our partners that we think about, understand, love and appreciate them.  Too often in long term relationships people feel taken for granted and this creates distances.  At one point the two of you were strangers.  Then there was some attraction and wooing; that was the beginning the relationship.  Humans are creatures of habit.  We seek routine to feel safe.  Unfortunately routine does not feed our needs for romance, thoughtfulness, and appreciation.  In asking ourselves questions like, “How can I be more loving?” “How can I show more appreciation?”  “How can I be more thoughtful?” and answering these questions by taking appropriate actions we can consciously and intentionally bring romance, woo, and generally positive sentiment back into our relationship.  What could be a better gift?