When faced with
decisions big or small it is useful to take a moment to reflect on how the decision
feels. Generally speaking fear based
decisions feel constrictive and lead us to feeling trapped. There are many other places to make decisions
from (i.e. reason, love, pursuit of meaning, etc.) that evoke feelings that
range from neutral to inspirational. Decisions
made from the later described place feel expansive and lead to growth. Fear is not the problem. Fear is just a feeling, information about
feeling unsafe. It seeks safety in the
predictable even if it is consistently unsatisfying. We make better decisions when we are aware of
and honest with ourselves about our feelings.
A simple test is to check in with ourselves in the present by asking “Dose
this choices feel constrictive or expansive?”
Choices that feel constrictive maintain the status quo or homeostasis of
the system. Choices that feel expansive lead
to dynamic change, healing, and growth.
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