The Power of Honesty

Our old friend fear is so hard to look at squarely.  It gets our heart racing and fogs our mind.  The logic of fear is based on immediate satiation. The fear based methods of seeking safety often are isolating and serve to perpetuate the story it is trying to protect us from.  For example in stories where we see ourselves as a victim to another or depict ourselves as a martyr, while another may be participating in the story, in not confronting the other about the dissatisfaction or doing anything different ourselves, we maintain the story.  As adults we are not powerless in our relationships or to change.  The story of powerless serves to absolve us from facing that which we are afraid of (i.e., abandonment, confrontation, disapproval, etc.).  If we are seeking healing and healthy relationships we must be completely honest with ourselves about our role in maintaining dynamics that do not feel good or right.  Our instincts are good and accurate.  If we do not feel good about how we are being treated or how we are acting, we must take responsibility for taking care of ourselves to do things differently.  We have the power to change and heal if we can be honest with and take responsibility for our own well being.