One of the
problems of long lasting relationships like those with our families of origin,
our spouse, or our children is that behaviors and conversations often become routine. Because of the long history of relatively consistent
behavioral and conversational responses we often come to think that we actually
know what the other person is thinking.
Unless one is clairvoyant (which most of us aren’t), we do not know what
anyone else is thinking unless they explicitly
state it. Why bring this up in series of
posts intended to be supportive during the holidays? I bring it up in hopes that people will
engage in new conversations this holiday season. That instead of assuming one knows the
thoughts of another, that they pose their speculations (however well
historically founded) as such and ask questions. In asking questions, owning our own speculation
and listening with the intention to understand, dialogue comes into the present. The present is where we find the connection
and understanding we seek. One of the
greatest gifts we can give this holiday season is act in a way that allows
ourselves and those we care about to feel connected and understood.
This blog exists to increase understanding through the process of dialogue about relationships and personal well being
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