Family Communication

Much holiday dread seems to come from the fear of having to play roles that no longer fit.  That in being with our family of origin we have to play the role they expected of us.  That in spite of all of our personal growth and development as adults since leaving our homes, some of us are still treated as the same younger person we were when we left.  Marianne Williamson writes, “Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.”  Allow yourself to be yourself.  This is leading by example.  We can be honest and respectful.  In so doing we gives others permission to be themselves.  This is the nature of truly intimate relations.