Knowing Where We’re Coming From

When making decisions it very important to consider where we are coming from.  That is, knowing what is the underlying feeling that is propelling our decision. One way to assess where we are coming from is to ask our self, “Dose this choice feel expansive or contractive?” Choices based in fear feel contractive, and generally speaking keep us small and stuck, even if they feel safe.  Choices based on love, connection, creativity, compassion, empathy and understanding feel expansive and vast.  In trying to create the lives and relationships we want we need to be coming from an expansive and positive position even if it is scary and unfamiliar.  There is nothing wrong with being afraid; however, if we make choices based on fear we will get the same unsatisfying results:  The safety of familiar suffering.  We need not settle for this.  We can have the lives and relationships we seek by bravely pushing ourselves out of our comfort zone to expand into the realms of vastness, creativity, and love.